Listening to our intuition can support us to move forward ...
There are times we can hold onto things so tightly, even when we know it's not serving or supporting us.
We can find ourselves in places or spaces where we feel a little uneasy or something's just not right.
Our intuition might be speaking to us so loudly, in many ways, and yet - we still hold on, we still cling tightly, and we stay.
It can feel very confronting to listen to our needs so deeply, that it might mean stepping away from something, letting go of a relationship, moving away from a situation, leaving a space or place, or making changes to our circumstances that can feel challenging, but necessary.
I can think of times where I have held onto things so tightly. It felt scary or even wrong, to let go. But when I was deeply honest with myself, I knew I was making a choice from a place of intuition and trust within myself, and I think this is such a necessary part of honouring ourselves and our wellbeing.
I can think of a friendship I held onto for so long. Although it often felt one sided, and I knew deep within me that I was feeling drained, always supporting and honestly never feeling valued or acknowledged in a mutual and respectful way. A friendship where I felt deeply misunderstood but I still kept holding onto it, because I didn't want to let her down or be the one who walked away, and so I kept putting her needs before my own. And it became really messy and hard. I thought it was best to not shake the status quo, to just keep going along with things as they were. When in reality, when I let go, and when I stepped back a little, it felt as if my entire being just took a deep breath of release. And I felt completely unburdened.
The beautiful thing is now, that our friendship has survived. When I listened to myself, I knew I had to have an open and honest conversation, and this shifted and changed so much. I'm not one to believe in shutting people out and as part of listening to my own needs, I always value being honest with others too. So whilst our friendship is not the same as it was, it's so much lighter and easier, for both of us, I feel. It doesn't always happen this way. Sometimes friendships and relationships do end, and we do need to walk away. But sometimes our intuition leads us to making choices, and when we give voice to these, we can be surprised at what happens.
I think of my home that I held onto for such a long time. It felt full of so many memories and for a long time I thought that by selling that home, I would lose so much that was precious to me. The choice to sell that home and to move locations was one of the hardest things I've done, and yet, it's been so necessary. And I really see and know that now. Letting go of my attachment to that home and all that it held, I realsied that I didn't need that home to still have and to carry memories and love in my heart. And when I truly listened, I knew my intuition was speaking loudly to me, and that by making a brave choice, I was opening a new chapter of life in many ways, to keep changing and evolving.
I can think of so many other things. Small things and larger things. And situations others and clients have told me about in their lives. Perhaps there's something coming up for you?
Things and people and places we might cling onto, or hold onto so tightly, for fear of what will happen if they don't. Fear of things changing. Fear of something new. Fear of disappointing someone. Fear of making the wrong decision or choice. Fear of not knowing themselves without that relationship, or without that 'thing'. And these are all very real fears, as things we hold onto tightly, can feel very much part of our identity. To let these go, can shift and change so much.
It's not always easy to let go, but I think there are some very real and honest questions we can ask of ourselves at these times -
How does my heart feel here?
Can I breathe easily here?
Can I be truly myself here?
Do I feel safe here?
Can I trust that I will feel free to change, to evolve, to grow and to feel supported here?
These questions are deeply resonant within relationships. But these questions can be reframed and asked through all situations and circumstances in our lives. Places we find ourselves. Many times of change or transition where we find ourselves with choices and decisions to make. Spaces and groups we are part of (or perhaps we wonder if we are, or not). Perhaps just how we might feel in a certain time and place.
I encourage you to always listen to your intuition and to yourself. I wonder how you know what feels most right and true for you. Do you feel it in your body perhaps. Or does a thought come to mind. Do you have a sensation or feeling that comes over you. I wonder how you listen to your own intuition and how it feels for you.
I know for me, I feel it in my body so very clearly. It's impossible to ignore. If something feels 'off', I have an instant body feeling of it. The mind and body connection is so very real. It's why I believe so passionately in holistic wellbeing, as I am so aware of how my own feelings, emotions, and thoughts and behaviours, are all so connected to my physical being. I can feel threads and connections between everything.
Something I am conscious of always, is to consider my own thoughts and behaviours too. As letting go of a relationship for instance, isn't about feeling that we're angry or hurt or that this person has wronged us in some way. I think it's very important to be able to come to an awareness within ourselves of how we feel, and why. To really understand our own feelings and behaviours, and to process these with honesty and self compassion. And then to be able to see the situation with less judgement, and with more compassion. And it's from this space and place, that I then know I can persoanlly make a choice and decsion that feels true to me.
We are all complex human beings. None of us are perfect. There are always different sides and perspectives to everything. Letting go of someone we love or care about, may not mean cutting them off or shutting them out, or having to break up with them, or a big choice like that. It might. But it might not too. It may just require a very conscious shift and change within ourselves of having that relationship in our hearts and lives, but perhaps in a different way. But in a way we know serves and suports us rather than affecting our own wellbeing.
When we know to listen to ourselves and our needs, when we know how to cultivate intuition and awareness within ourselves, then we make choices and decisions from a place of compassion, rather than fear. And we can begin to trust in ourselves and in life supporting us, too.
Letting go of things that no longer serve us, or support us, requires us to be deeply honest with ourselves. And perhaps honest with others in our hearts and lives too.
Holding on, clinging to things tightly, can create so much angst and heaviness, even negativity, in all aspects of our wellbeing. And this can filter into everything and others around us too. I believe when we make choices from a place of compassion, we support ourselves and support each other collectively too.
If you'd like to continue a conversation about this, then I welcome you to email me. Perhaps you'd like some support in your own heart and life right now. Perhaps you may be wondering how to listen to yourself more deeeply, or to really know how to listen to your intution and allow this to guide you. I'd love to have a conversation with you.
Letting go, releasing our hold on things or others, can free us up for what is right and true for us. We are all unique individuals and honouring our own needs is so necessary for our wellbeing, and for all the ways we can then be willing to trust, and to keep moving forward.
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Katie Jane is a Life Coach, Health Coach, Counsellor, Nutritionist, Naturopath, Holistic Psychologist, Mentor, Writer, Meditation teacher. She has been working in the wellness industry for over 15 years and brings all of these qualifications and skills, along with her own lived experiences through challenges, changes and transitions. Katie works with clients in private practice in Melbourne, as well as online and over skype to other parts of the globe. Her approach to life and wellbeing is truly holistic and unique for each individual. She supports and coaches clients to make powerful changes in their hearts and in their lives.