These words are for your heart to hold onto when you forget them for yourself.
For all the times the harsher inner voice may become louder than the softnesss you know as your power, your grace, that you just forget for a moment, how to shine through. Words you might become too familiar with - I'm not enough. But compared to who? Not enough - in what ways or shapes or forms? And what does it even mean to you - to be not enough, or not good enough - when aren't we all, already enough, more than enough, in our entirety? Constantly evolving. Yet always complete. Always whole. Always enough.
Whenever you feel this way maybe you'll remember reading these words, and you can store them away for a day you might need them, or perhaps it's right now. And you might remind yourself to take some big, deep, long breaths - inhale and exhale - place your hand on your heart, and whisper to yourself with compassion and sincerity - and then even more so, with conviction - I am enough, I am always enough, I have all that I need. I am.
It can be an evolving journey I find myself on, alongside you, too. Times when I might forget, and need this honest and deep reminder of the truth of who I am, what I am, how I am, all that I am, and my own small significance within it all. For myself. Not anyone else, just for me. Because that's all that really matters - how we feel within ourselves, our own choices, our own decisions, our own self empowerment and self responsibility - and how that then extends and expands into everything and everyone around us too. How that liberates us, and we feel alive and free.
A remembrance, a knowing, that we are not separate, but a piece of the whole picture. We always belong. Like a brush stroke on a painting. Just one tiny stroke, but it's just that one thing that makes it such a beautiful and complete piece of art. So small, but it brings it to life. Like a small wave in a vast ocean. That wave doesn't ask itself or anyone else if it belongs, it's just a natural flowing part of it all, part of nature, each tide that comes in and flows out, it's all as one. Just as nature resides within ourselves.
I know where my own feelings of enoughness, or lack of, can come from, at times. And this may resonate for you, perhaps in some way too. As no one is perfect, we all have these ebbs and flows within own nature, that ask for tender loving care and nurturing through phases of change and transitions in our lives. Times when there is uncertainty. Or challenges that have shaken us a little, or a lot, and it's like missing our footing for a moment on a rocky surface, and having to adjust ourselves, collect ourselves, to stand strong, and come back to what's real and true.
It's a powerful thing to return to oneself, and to lean on all the inner resources we have built and cultivated within. It's powerful and liberating to remove all the outside and external noise and distractions and to be firmly grounded in what it is that's true and real for ourselves. There's such a sincerity, and a deep sense of self assurdeness from this space. And we don't need to speak up for that to be felt, or even heard. If we feel it within ourselves, that's all that matters. The truth of the power within, radiates, even more so at times, within the spaces of silence.
And perhaps at times, this lack of enoughness may come from somewhere deeper, something unresolved, or even not known to us, at some unconsious level, but our bodies and hearts know. We feel it. And we know it's brave and wise to go there, to be able to look with self compassion into that space, into the crevices, and all the frays around all the edges of our so-called imperfections or what we may consider as wounds. And to do so, with a want and desire to feel again, empowered, even more liberated, by being courageous to say - I'm vulnerable here, this hurts, this is hard. Perhaps - I feel this uncertainty, this change, this transition, and I'm not quite there yet. And even at times, our hearts may yearn for us to say to someone we deeply trust in - I feel I'm not enough, I'm not good enough - and this holds me back from participating fully in this life, as just myself, as I wonder, where do I fit in to it all, and how do I belong.
This vulnerability takes courage to voice out loud. To be honest within this uncertainty. Perhaps in some ways it's even re-learning ones identity again. Knowing who you are through loss or change. Re-discovering who you are and can be, through living with something that's hard and challenging. And to be held, guided by someone we trust, to ask us the questions, to sit with us, to take us there, as we feel allowed and encouraged to unravel, layer by layer.
This journey is one of courage that leads to wisdom. If we can feel empowered within all that we live with, and liberated through it all, we can find a new sense of beauty and significance and enoughness that can feel steadfast and strong. To live with something that's challenging, to surrender to this, to transcend this, is one of the richest experiences that I think I will personally, ever travel. To know and understand and believe in every fibre of my being, that I am whole, I am complete, I am enough.
We don't need to be absent of dis-ease or dis-harmony to be or feel enough. We don't need to be able-bodied or free of limitations to feel we are worthy. We don't need our hearts to be fully mended or all the pieces to fit together pefectly again, as once before, to be enough. We don't need to have healed or recovered or achieved that outcome or goal, to feel enough. The reality is that not everything can or might be fixed. And do we really ever need for it to. How we are through it all, because of it all, within it all, how we live and carry it, and have hearts wide open to more compassion, to more love - that's more than enough, that's everything.
To be fully present in all of our humanness, where our true nature resides, to lean in, to listen, to know we are enough, always enough. Just as we are. Just as you are. Just as I am. Right now. In each present moment.
Our own uncertainty or doubts may come when the world around us can feel very loud, or confusing, if we're not tuned in or listening to all it is that we truly need. Just listening to ourselves over and above the ways or thoughts or opinions of others. Allowing others words or ways to feel greater than our own. We might allow those external situations or people or experiences to feel bigger or brighter. Or to see someone else powering through, when we might just be standing quietly, reflecting a little more, even retreating, stepping back - but there's still a part of us that might think we should be where they are, or doing what they are, or feeling the way they are. When in reality, how could we possibly. There is no comparison. I am me. You are you. And when we take ourselves back to what we know within ourselves - let this voice of reason and compassion whisper and become louder - you are enough, remember who you are, remember why you're here, all that you've traveled through, how far you've come, how much you carry, and how empowered you are in keeping on moving through and forward. And all of this reminds us, as it does me, that my life is no comparsion to anyone else, it's just my own, my whole complete self in entirety. Change is a constant and I keep flowing along and unfolding and evolving along with it. And all that I am is enough for me. When I am at peace and content within myself, that's all that truly matters. This is my own power and my own significance, for myself. Just for, and within, me.
The only one who can decide and choose we are enough, is ourselves. No one else can tell us we're enough. No amount of external validation will convince us, unless we understand and know where the answers and the knowing of this, truly resides - within ourselves. That we are enough, regardless of circumstances, experiences, limitations. We are enough without attaining or achieving some result or outcome or end goal. The change, the challenge, the transition - the whole journey - what is revealed to us, what we choose to carry, how we choose change to deepen our awareness and our own compassion. The power and significance in who we are and continually becoming. I always remind myself of this and hope for you, to think of times you've forgotten the whole journey, not only reaching some final end result, but just how far you have come, and who you are, the light you bring, the value you offer, the perspective and lense you may see life through because of your own experiences. Let them change you, deepen you, and let them flood you with a knowing that's greater than anything, and let that become even more compassion and understanding for others who are struggling or suffering, or just finding things difficult through their own uncertainty and change. If you're anything like me, or this resonates in some way, all of what I am is my reason, my meaning, my purpose.
Maybe our whole definition of what it means to be enough may require some revealing honesty, some reflection, deep inner truth. Some guidance with a trusted other. Maybe this whole concept of being and feeling enough needs redefining for ourselves in every single way, and to really honour that - I know it has for me - in ways of even what it means to succeed and achieve, and to thrive. And mostly, what it means, to heal. To be a well being. What it means to feel and embody a sense of freedom even if our circumstances might be still challenging and ever present. Like pain, like grief, like illness, like anxiety or emotions that feel difficult and hard through all kinds of changes and transitions we face. This knowing and feeling that despite this, or any limitations, we can be and are still free. That can feel hard to grasp at times, but it doesn't need to be. If we can let go of the tight grip and hold we have on resisting what is and wishing for things to be different, or to change in ways that we expect them to, and instead, come to some sense of acceptance and surrender to just what is, right now, then we can feel liberated and free. Letting go of the struggle and the internal fight, surrending to the moment, to just what is, and this knowing that nothing is certain, and all we have is right now, and however we find ourselves, wherever we are, we're okay, we're enough. In each present moment, now.
I've always longed for us all to feel empowered through whatever we live with and live through. I have a deep passion for this, because I know this so well within myself. When we talk of adveristy, we often wonder what this means these days. It can become a word that we toss around lightly. We cannot compare each others experiences. We can only hold these all with compassion and acknowledge the truth of them, for us all, in our own individual and collective ways. And yet at times, even when adversity has passed, or if we're still living amongst it, within it, we can keep trying and striving in all the ways we desire to recover, to heal. This expectation that to feel enough is only when we get there, or reach somewhere. When we see this end sight of remission or a healed heart through grief, or life back to normal through some life changing and transformative experience. And yet, to be enough isn't when we have this attachment to an outcome. It can be harmful to cling onto this, and to even share this with others, as the only way. I am so discerning of this, with all that I know so deeply, these days.
To feel and be and believe in being enough, must be just as we are, however we are, wherever we are, because it all deeply matters. That expected outcome isn't one to cling to, or to hold onto as the only hope. There's so much hope in being just right here, right now, in all that you are, the inspirational story within it all. The inspiration you bring to yourself. It's nothing to do with the external or outside world, or standing on a stage and speaking to a crowd with applause. Well, it might be for you. But for me, I know it's nothing to do with that. It's just an acknowledgement within myself and all the small ways I can turn my own adversity into something that feels like warmth, comfort or a beach of light to someone else.
I've often thought if I could gift anyone anything through some of the hardest of times, it would be hope. And I think with a knowing of this, it feels enough, more than enough, always enough.
I love to mentor and coach others to feel so deeply empowered and liberated within themselves, to know that contentment, happiness and freedom exists and is available to us all. But not from anything external to us. All the inner resources we have within. Our own nature. Being. Suffering isn't permanent. Joy is possible. And those times you may forget that you're enough, valued and worthy, there are ways to shift and to choose and see all the openings of light that flow through acceptance and surrendering to what is. A light within that might go out from time to time, but a knowing that we hold the torch, we hold the match that lights our inner flame. Our internal fire that's more powerful and radiant than anything.
Limitations may be just that - limitations - but there's so much freedom when we feel empowered and liberated in knowing that we are never defined by these. We are never needing to be different or to heal or to be changed or fixed in some way, to be enough. And as I reflect on this as I write, it reminds even more, all the significance of the whole journey, the depth of the middleness and the transition, all the mess or swamps we wade through, and the beauty we find. To know who we are, just as we are, however we may be - right now and always - we are enough, when we choose and allow and believe in ourselves, to be.
We decide. We choose. It's up to us to be deeply honest and to listen to what holds us back, to what we're choosing as our story that's playing out, and how we are seeing ourselves as anything other than whole. And why? How is this supporting us? How is this serving us? We can change the story when we are honest within ourselves, and find a place of truth that calls to us, and becomes louder than any inner voice. And we see oursevles as enough in every shape, way or form. To feel enough in a sense that's unwaivering, steadfast and true. Unshakeable. Maybe not always. But each time we might need a reminder, or to rememeber this, it takes us less to return. It's like a stored memory and we know how to get back there. I am enough. I am home within myself. Perhaps it's a like a heart beat that becomes a constant rythmn, our own energy, our life force.
I know that in the depths of change and transitions, can be the most beautiful stories and inspiration we will ever know and find for ourselves. I hope this for you, through anything you live with or move through, too. To feel empowered in your own truth, in your own self, to not get caught up in the outside world when others voices or messages become too loud. To just draw yourself within, and listen to the whispers of your own self that empower and liberate you to feel freedom in all the ways you can.
To know - I am greater than this. I am not just my physcial body. I am not just my mind. I am not just this experience or this circumstance. I am not what is happening to me, or within me, or around me, at all. I just am. Nothing's broken, nothing needs to be fixed. I am already whole. I am complete. I am enough. Always enough.
May something of this will empower you and liberate you and set you free. You have all that you need. Life is waiting for you. What are you waiting for?
With all my love x
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Katie Jane is a Life Coach, Health Coach, Counsellor, Nutritionist, Naturopath, Holistic Psychologist, Mentor, Writer, Meditation teacher. She has been working in the wellness industry for over 15 years and brings all of these qualifications and skills, along with her own lived experiences through challenges, changes and transitions. Katie works with clients in private practice in Melbourne, as well as online and over skype to other parts of the globe. Her approach to life and wellbeing is truly holistic and unique for each individual. She supports and coaches clients to make powerful changes in their hearts and in their lives.